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Alice Ann Durben

Alice Ann Durben (Trombley)

Monday, July 13th, 2020
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Durben, Alice A, Age 95, formerly of Acton and Hudson, MA, died unexpectedly July 13, 2020 at Robbins Brook Senior Living in Acton, MA where she recently moved. She was predeceased in 2009 by her loving husband James M. Durben. Alice is survived by her family, Marya and Peter, Mike and Maria, Tom and Sandy, Nancy and Ian, Jean and Don, her 10 beautiful grandchildren & beloved great-grandchild; beloved sisters Lee, Sr. Agnes, brother Phil, nieces and nephews galore. Funeral arrangements are private.

At 95 years young Alice was amazing. She raised 5 nearly fantastic kids and never yelled once. All it took was one raised eyebrow to make her point but otherwise she found that her faith in God and living by example were the best tools to keep her kids in tow. But it wasn’t until the next generation came along that it was evident that love, patience, generosity and more love truly are the seeds of good things to come. How else can one explain that each of her children found love and by doing so surrounded her with 10 truly fantastic grandkids and one simply spectacular great grandchild.

Alice was born in 1924 in Somerset Wisconsin, the daughter of George and Agnes. She met Jim in Los Angeles California on the dance floor of an Arthur Murray studio where she taught and Jim came to learn. Love at first waltz. They were married for 52 wonderful years. He was a mechanical engineer, classical music lover and quiet man. She was an artist and homemaker extraordinaire who kept us fed, semi bathed and outdoors as much as possible. We watched the Muppets, Sunday Disney Hour and Mutual of Omaha’s Wild Kingdom together. Oh yeah, and "All in the Family." We grew up on homemade bread, powdered milk and a whole lot of cookie dough. We never came home from school without her being there. She loved a good debate tackling everything from parenthood to politics. She loved us all dearly and was an inspiration to many.

There was not a single moment between this life on earth and the start of her life in Heaven. Moms never really leave us. They spend their lives gently tip toeing across our hearts leaving imprints of love and understanding. Our hearts are aching but full. We always want more time even when we know our time is not endless. But love is endless, and she always lived with a cup of it, so much to give with just enough room for more.

So, if you knew our Mom, you know you were blessed. Her entire family loved her immensely and will miss her greatly. Just look outside and whatever beautiful thing you see, you will see our mom in it. Understanding the beauty in this world is to understand her. She was spunky, stubborn, fiercely independent, loving, kind, and simply wonderful. She made us smile and laugh whole heartedly. May she continue to make her little footprints on our hearts and laugh in peace with God and with all those family and friends who loved her and are with her now in Heaven.

Bring on the flowers but plant them in your yard. Our Mom loved roses and they'll keep blooming if you keep pruning. She loved Sr Linda Koontz’s Spirit of the Lord Int'l Ministry, and for years our Mom has supported her work in El Paso, Texas. Memorial contributions may be made in Alice’s name to this charity. Or, if there is a charity you support, consider doing so in her name. We recently spoke with Sr. Linda and donations sent directly to the address below are the only way to reach her organization. That will keep our Mom smiling in Heaven. And if nothing else, just be kind to your neighbor. We need a little more kindness in this world.

Spirit of the Lord Int'l Ministry, Sr. Linda Koontz, 8900 A-N Viscount #260, El Paso, Texas 79925-5897

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    Woodlawn Cemetery
    104 Concord Road
    Acton Center, MA 01720
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Toni Rader

Posted at 06:51am
I am so sorry for your loss. I got to know Alice when I went to morning Mass everyday. What a gift to get to know this beautiful lady. One day (many years ago) I had a few people over after morning Mass for cookies and tea. The next morning after morning Mass I was talking to someone in the gathering space, Alice came over and started putting her hands in my pockets. I asked her why she was doing this. She said she was looking for cookies. She thought I would bring some of the leftover cookies with me. I did, but I had them in my car so I went out and got a baggie of cookies for her to take home. Peace be with you.

Mike Trombley

Posted at 01:56pm
I always remember Aunt Alice as being super friendly and gracious to everyone. I don't think I ever saw her get mad, though maybe she did have a few opportunities. She seemed to be a bit of the glue that held her siblings together. She visited here, Minneapolis / St Cloud area, often to visit Lee and Mick, Sisters Agnes and Laurent and my mom and dad, Mary and Phil - he being her older brother.

Phil's still living on his own in Ft Myers, FL, 10 years after our Mom died. I often arranged to drive with my Dad on his "migration" trips to and from Florida. Somewhat recently, I routed us via Canada as an excuse to keep us far enough north to include a stop in Boston so he could visit with Alice (and nearby family!) You could tell they were siblings and it was evident who was the peace-keeper. Alice was a great host and I enjoyed a bit of quiet time with her on that visit as well. Being Boston, her kids arranged LOBSTER for EVERYONE for our big, get together meal. It almost reminded me of meals with Grandma and Grandpa Trombley - way too much food! It was a great stop and made that trip back to Florida quite memorable.

I'll miss Alice, as well as Jim. I'm happy to be related and believe they together raised a great family - all equally as friendly as both parents.

Mike Trombley (Terri)

Carol DeFuria

Posted at 01:23pm
To the Durben Family,
Our hearts are with you during this difficult time. Your mother was an inspiration with her zest for life, and her strong faith, and she will be deeply missed. We know she will always be with you. May her memory be eternal. With love and deepest sympathy - Carol and Rich DeFuria

Lori Dietz

Posted at 02:50pm
To all the Durbens and Trombleys and Michnowski's: we are all very blessed to have the family tree that provided the very special people who made us who we are. It is because of Grandma/Grandpa Trombley and their amazing offspring, we were all able to pass on to our children, the love, compassion and beauty that each of our families possess. Aunt Alice (Uncle Jim) have 5 wonderful children. In turn, those 5 created 5 more beautiful families. We can definately thank Aunt Alice (Uncle Jim) for being the perfect role models. There is so much love between every family member, no amount of money could buy that pot of gold! We should celebrate Aunt Alice's life, because her legacy is strong and still growing. May she rest in peace with Uncle Jim. May she play some good pranks on Mr. Mick...or at least deliver some good jokes...and may all of her family be at peace knowing that she is now in good company with all the other angels.
With love,
Lori Dietz


Posted at 08:57pm
Rest In Peace to our beautiful Aunt Alice! We love you! ❤️

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